Oral Sex on guys is often known as Fellatio, but it is more commonly called a blow-job. Fellatio involves exciting the male genitals primarily by using the mouth, lips and tongue. Blow-jobs just aren’t for men’s pleasure. That’s right – many women say that the feeling of control it gives them, combined with the oral stimulation is a turn-on all on its own.
Here is a quick review of the male anatomy: the head of the penis is called the Glans – it looks kind of like a mushroom cap; the Frenulum is on the underside of the penis – a lot of people call it the cord – it’s kind of like a little strip there that connects the “V” to the shaft of the penis and it is typically considered the most sensitive part of the penis for most guys; the very tip of the penis is the Urethra which is where the urine passes which also a really sensitive part; the Shaft is the rest of the length of the penis; the Perineum is the area between where the testicles end and the anus starts – a lot of people call that the ‘tween’ or the ‘taint’. Another thing to be aware of is the Testicles themselves and the Scrotal Sac which is what houses the Testicles and that is where the sperm is made and stored for ejaculation. So those are the main parts that you need to know about for the guy.
For starters, most people want to begin with some up and down stimulation with suction. If you are the giver, find a comfortable position and remember that enthusiasm trumps technique just about every time. So you have a chance to fake it until you make it! The more you enjoy giving oral sex to your man, the more he enjoys receiving it and the more fun it is for everybody. You can practice before-hand on a dildo like the All American Whopper. It has a suction cup base so you can stick it to any flat surface at any angle to simulate giving oral sex to your partner. Practice makes perfect!
Begin by teasing the penis a little by kissing it, breathing lightly on it and tickling it. Ask him how he wants to be stimulated – does he liked to be sucked gently, does he like it hard, slow, fast, deep, etc. You want to create a vacuum by pursing your lips and using them to surround the penis. Thrust your mouth down over the penis while you suck. You can use saliva as a lubricant or you can use a flavored lubricant to make the experience more pleasant and palatable.
Stroke up and down with your hand while you are sucking. Use your hands as an extension of your mouth. That way you don’t have to work as hard. Experiment a little and add a gentle twist of your hand as you move it up and down the shaft and continue to suck. Switch hands occasionally for variation because it gives it a whole different feel – especially if it is your non-dominate hand. It will actually give it a little unusual rhythm if it is your non-dominate hand. Change your stroking rhythm from long and slow to short and fast and everything in-between. What you don’t want to do is change the rhythm just before he climaxes unless he asks you to. Communication is so important and can add to your enjoyment so much more.
Beyond sucking, you can do some more tricks – you can lick by running your tongue around the glans – the mushroom cap area. Then, focus on the frenulum which is that ‘cord’ on the back of the penis. You can flick your tongue back and forth across the frenulum, all around, or right at the tip of the penis – side to side across the urethral opening. Just a gentle flick or lick there can be very enticing for him. You can use your hand to fondle, alternating this time. Feel free to nibble and linger anywhere he likes it. Generally you can tell if he likes it because he makes those happy noises. Really, really try not to use your teeth. That is probably the biggest turn-off for oral pleasure on guys. It can also be uncomfortable too.
There is more to a penis than meets the eye. His scrotum and testicles also enjoy stimulation. You can gently massage them or you can put them in your mouth and give them a little lick, suck or stimulation. You can run your tongue along the Perineum towards the anus. Be sure to take proper safety precautions when playing around the anal area to prevent contamination. You should use a dental dam or a slice of condom with a little lube on both sides and lay it over the area. This will protect you against any kind of bacteria that should not be in your mouth normally and also give him the pleasure that he will probably really enjoy. So massaging any of those areas while stimulating the shaft of the penis is generally very, very pleasurable for him.
Now the big question: spit or swallow? Well, it’s your decision, of course. Some people do like to take the ejaculate into their mouth while others like to watch it while it comes out. Both of them can be very sexy. If you do choose to take it in your mouth, you can swallow or you can keep a napkin or cloth nearby for your comfort. Some people like a “catch and release” method where he cums in your mouth but then you let it slowly run back out onto the penis. That is a whole different sensation for both of you also, and some people really find that to be a turn-on. Know your partner and make choices that work for both of you. Important safety tip – if you decide to swallow during oral sex, make sure you know your partner is not HIV positive because it has been known to transmit the virus. In this situation, make sure your partner wears a condom during oral sex. Put a little lube on the inside of the condom for better sensation for him.
Here are some advanced tips for you… Take a deep breath before you take the penis into your mouth – it will help relax your throat muscles and helps prevent the gagging. If you think his penis is going to touch the back of your throat, concentrate on relaxing, and also use your hand around the base of the penis to control the amount the he goes into your mouth. The less that you have to take in, the easier it is for you most of the time. Try swallowing when his penis reaches the back of your throat. It kind of tickles, but it makes it a little easier if that is something that you want to engage in.
You can try a little trick where you put the penis in the side of the mouth between the teeth and the cheek. That prevents stimulating that gag reflex and is more palatable for a lot of people. This is kind of unpleasant – but getting pubic hairs in your mouth is common. Don’t worry about it, just stop for a minute and take them out and keep on going.
You can try other little tricks like inserting a finger inside a condom and inserting it inside the anus, massaging around the area or stimulating his prostate during oral sex. Don’t do this without talking to your partner first. Make sure you have plenty of lube because it needs to be lubricated since there is no natural lubrication in that area. Many men find a lot of additional pleasure stimulating that prostate. It is located about 2 inches inside the anal area pointing toward the back of the belly button from inside the anal canal. Giving him a little gentle, rhythmic massage there especially during oral stimulation is usually a lot of fun.
For a different kind of thrill you can put an ice cube inside your mouth or a mint for a little extra stimulation. Consider stimulating his inner thighs as your mouth moves on his shaft – it is a little bit of a different feel.
Have fun experimenting and trying some of these tips and techniques! Find out what works best for you and your partner.
